Are you a victim of Narcissistic Relationships, Emotional Abuse or Gaslighting?
Any form of abuse in your life is unacceptable. You deserve to be surrounded by loving, positive, nurturing people. If you are recently gotten out of a toxic relationship, finding signs you’re healing from narcissistic abuse can be one way you motivate yourself to keep going. From getting professional help, to leaning on your loved ones, to focusing on self-care, you will have the tools you need to heal, and that’s a pretty good place for you to be.
How to Identify Narcissistic Behavior
Narcissists are good at seeking out warm, sensitive people that they feel they can manipulate. If you think that the person you're with could be a narcissist, it's important to ask yourself these questions:
Am I getting my needs met consistently?
Do I sometimes get a very strong feeling I am being manipulated but then ignore it?
If I'm being honest with myself, am I being controlled and not getting my needs met?
Have I been forced to sacrifice my other relationships and priorities in a constant attempt to serve this person's needs?
If you answered "yes" to most of these questions, then it's possible that your partner, family member or friend, is a narcissist. Click on the PDF Red Flag Checklist above.
I use a variety of techniques to help you. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is an effective type of therapy that’s often used to help people when they’re on the road to narcissistic abuse recovery. Working together we can begin to:
Identify the reasons why you accept abuse
Build coping skills to help you navigate abusive relationships
Resist the urge to remain in contact with somebody who’s abusive
Become open and honest with others in your life about the abuse you’ve experienced
Figure out if symptoms of anxiety, depression, or another mental health condition might be coming into play
Deal with and overcome any thoughts you might be having about self-harm or suicide
Reflect - In the first session I would like to get to know you and identify the symptoms you are experiencing, the emotions and the events that trigger them and the root cause by exploring your core beliefs.
Recover - This is not a quick fix approach. To achieve personal change requires lifestyle changes and sustained effort and commitment from you. We will work together to meet your goals of therapy and an action plan for maintenance of your improved mood.
Refocus - One of the biggest benefits of CBT is that after your course has finished, you can continue to apply the ‘tools for life’ you have learned. This should make it less likely that your symptoms will return.
I can appreciate how difficult it can be to engage in counselling for the first time or with a new counsellor. I recommend that we arrange an initial session to identify and explore the issues and concerns you may be experiencing, and your hopes for how counselling may help you. The initial meeting is very relaxed and just for you to have space to explore your thoughts. There is no obligation to continue further sessions at that point. You may decide you feel comfortable and would like to return at another time in the future or it may be a one off session, your choice. I know from experience that when you reach out for help, it is a strength, not a weakness. I am here to help you work through any challenges you may be facing.
NHS waiting list 10 months - Sessions available for you now.